The start of a new year is a great time to make changes and start fresh on various resolutions. For those going through divorce, such goals may be more important now than ever. While healthy eating and weight loss can be great ideas at any stage of life, here are a few additional ideas for New Year’s resolutions when you are starting your new life.
Rise above conflict
If there is one thing that most divorces have in common, it is conflict. Arguing over the needs and schedules of children, alimony payments and who is in charge can cause endless fights. Issues that occurred in the past may also seem to be constantly brought up and gone over again and again. However, all this does is drag everybody down and set a tone of anger for the entire family. This year, you should resolve to avoid any negative interactions by rising above the conflict. While taking the high road and being the bigger person may seem like you are letting your ex-spouse win, it will actually be you that is winning a life free from regrets and negativity. It also sets a good example for your children and leads to better outcomes in decisions involving them.
The changes that can affect each relationship during a divorce are often difficult to get used to and take time to come to terms with. You need to be patient with your children as they ease into this new family scenario. Being patient with yourself is also important, as you will likely experience the feelings of grief that are common with the loss of a marriage. It is also important to respect that your spouse is also going through his or her own feelings of remorse and will also need you to be patient as everyone adjusts to the changes.
Focus on yourself
In addition to being patient, kind and respectful to everyone else, you ought to take some time to focus on your own well-being. Trying out new hobbies, enrolling in something like a yoga class and joining support groups are all great ways to improve your emotional health. Many people also find that exercises such as running and boxing provide stress relief as well as a great workout.
If you are ready to file for divorce, contact an experienced attorney today. With professional legal advice, you will be able to achieve the best settlement possible as you start your new life.